I'm known as lot of things: a lawyer, CPA, natural hair lover, life coach, wife, momma, Happy Feet, that Thorough Chic, the Get Stuff Done Queen, and Over-Achiever.

But at the heart of it, I'm an Identity Coach. What does that mean?

Hi  There!

I'm P.A.

I'm known as lot of things: a lawyer, CPA, natural hair lover, life coach, wife, momma, Happy Feet, that Thorough Chic, the Get Stuff Done Queen, and Over-Achiever.

But at the heart of it, I'm an Identity Coach. What does that mean?

I'm just a girl living life on my own terms … and giving you permission to do the same.

I work full-time in Big Law and I run a business.

I'm not just one thing and I get a lot of questions about "how I do it all". 

Here's my secret: I'm more in alignment with who I am on the inside, not with who the world expects me to be. And ...

I help other women living the corporate life overcome stereotypes, and align what they do with who they are, so they can be confident in their unique beauty and design lives and careers they find fulfilling.

That could mean dropping the code-switch and starting your natural hair journey to make it part of a personal brand that works for you, figuring out a career change to leverage your strengths and create an environment that fits your personality, mastering your personal style so you can be confident in the office or while hanging out with friends, or ...  finding that elusive balance between work and life. 



FINDING INSPIRATION FROM 

Slow mornings, spa days, good skincare, journaling, and really great fashion.

I'm  P.A.

Hi  There!

And I know what it takes to turn it around.

I know what it feels like:
  • to feel like something is missing even though on the outside it looks like you're living the dream life.
  • to feel stuck in your career because of the expectations around you.
  • to feel like every day you leave a large piece of yourself at home, and part of your soul is slowly dying.
  • to wonder if you'll still be successful if you showed up as your true self from head to toe.
  • to feel guilty about wanting something else even though there are tons of women who would kill to be in your shoes.

the breakdown

  My life can be characterized as a living analogy of stuffing a round peg into a square hole (or do I have that backwards? No matter).

  I had an unconventional upbringing, living in 13 countries and 6 continents before the age of 10. I love numbers, planning and rules just as much as I love dance, writing, theater, and travel. This dichotomy made it difficult to fit into society in general (we do love our boxes and I didn't fit neatly into any of them).

  As the daughter of Nigerian immigrants--I really only had 3 acceptable life trajectories: become a lawyer, doctor, or engineer (spoiler alert: I became a lawyer!).

And if that wasn't complicated enough, once we moved to America, I found myself as a young child navigating two worlds--the cultural expectations at home and the typically conflicting American outlook everywhere else. 

 I got so caught up trying to live up to who I was "supposed" to be in both worlds that I ended up drifting away from who I truly was and the things that made me happy.

 • I got caught up in the idealized Eurocentric standard of beauty (yes, I was "that" girl with the long, relaxed hair that swore she would never go natural) because society taught black girls the only way to be beautiful and successful was to have long, straight, silky, hair. This ultimately led to my hair thinning and a damaged scalp.  More on that here.

 • I lied about liking 'N Sync, Backstreet Boys, and country music because I'd lose my "black card" even though I loved BLACKstreet, Boyz II Men, Toni Braxton, TLC, and Aaliyah just as much. #90sBaby

 • I strove to be perfect academically so I could land the jobs my parents expected me to have that would vindicate all the sacrifices they made to give me a better life.

 • I forfeited a career in acting, dancing, and modeling (my dream) because, even though I loved the arts and it was like a miracle to get signed to a top agency back in the day (which I did!), those weren't considered "serious careers" by my parents who thought I'd end up on a VH1 special of Where Are They Now?   

All this to say, I had a difficult time finding my identity as I grew up in a society consistently trying to tell me who I should be and how I should look.

And one day, I found myself sitting in a beautiful, glass office, on an 11 pm conference call, doing a job I was good at that paid me 9x more than the national average income ... only to wonder if this was it?

And if this was the American Dream, why did I feel like I was slowly dying inside? With each step of "success," my stress levels grew, which affected my health and relationships--to the point I actually had to take medical leave for 3 months!

Change wasn't overnight, but I did get intentional because I realized you only have one life to live. 

And you can't really live it for anyone else.

Through a lot of highs, lows, trials and triumphs, I finally came to a place of accepting all the parts that make me who I am–a curly fashionista, creative entrepreneur, wife, girl mom, and nomad at heart.

It gave me the freedom and the confidence to live life according to my purpose, which is to empower other women to reconnect with their true identity, and use that to take control of their story, their beauty, step into their power, and create the life they were born to live.



why  I  do what   I  do

The reason I do my work today is because I see so many women, particularly women of color, giving up so much of themselves to navigate the barriers to success. Whether that's being scared to go natural because of the fear of not being seen as professional and losing out on leadership opportunities or high-profile clients, to taking jobs they hate in hopes of building generational wealth and a legacy.

I believe the most powerful way I can help create positive change, is to build a world where women feel empowered to take control of their narrative, define who they want to be, subscribe to their own beauty standards, and build fulfilling careers and lives.
 
Because when a woman is successful, she improves the lives of everyone in her sphere of influence and makes the world a fairer and more equitable place. And in order to be successful, you need to feel confident, to work in your strengths, and be aligned with your identity and your purpose.

To that end, I lovingly call this space The Girl Meets Soul Lifestyle (or "The GMS Lifestyle" for short). And here, I strive to help you live a life that is unencumbered and unapologetically you. I do this by addressing what I call the "GMS 3": 









1. Beauty Confidence - Building confidence in your unique beauty, including your hair, style, and skin.
2. Career Alignment - Aligning what you do with your strengths, personality, and your purpose to build an environment that ensures success and a life that has meaning.
3. Balance - life hacks that allow you to achieve and maintain a work-life balance that works for your lifestyle.

Through my blog, Girl Meets Soul, and my coaching services, I give you the tools and guidance to help you reach your goals.

Which brings me to you.

Maybe you haven't quite had an existential crisis like I did, but at some point in your life, you've probably felt stuck and wondered what you should be doing instead.

There's a saying that "a woman who knows what she wants is likely to receive it." At the heart of this is knowing and accepting who you really are. If you know who you are, you know what you want. And a woman who knows what she wants is unstoppable.

Are you ready to become her? 

AT A GLANCE

YOU SHOULD PROBABLY KNOW

01

Tea  > coffee every time. Just me?

02

a little obsessed with my kiddo.

03

happiest by the water, curled up with a good book. 

04

i splurge on vacations, rental subscriptions, and massages. i buy everything else on sale.

All about

Slow mornings, spa days, good friends, good food,
big hair, and really great fashion.

NOT ABOUT

Artificial people, injustice, wasting time, comparison, band-aid fixes, boring anything.

agree? we're probably a great fit.

Listen.  I don't pretend to know it all. I don't have all the answers and I make mistakes like every other human on this planet. But my commitment is to bring you the best of what I’m  learning (because I'm always learning), how I'm living, and keeping it real as I go.  You'll be challenged to grow, and I will be with you every step of the way.  Just consider me your virtual ride or die!

If you made it this far, thank you, you're amazing! I hope this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship, where I get to learn more about you and  your needs.

The best way to stay connected is to become a GMS Insider — just click here and enter your name and email.  You'll hear from me weekly or so, unless something is super important. Then you might hear from me sooner.

If we're not connected on Instagram yet, what're you waiting for? that's where the party's at. You can also find me on Facebook

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